• Because you do not deserve to be hurt, not by anyone, not even yourself;
  • Because you deserve the same compassion, kindness, and love that everyone else does, and that you would give to a friend;
  • Because if you hurt yourself, you are repeating and reinforcing what your abusers or people who put you down told you, and none of that is true;

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If you’re thinking of suicide, please talk to someone. Call a crisis line. Call someone who loves you. Get support. And

Please Do Not To Kill Yourself:

  • Because you deserve to live, and to find happiness and joy and love and laughter. It may not seem like you can find those things right now, but they will come. You have had them once, and they will come again;
  • Because things will get better, and when they do, you will want to be here to enjoy them;
  • Because if you kill yourself it will deeply hurt the people who love you and care about you;

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  • Come from a place of compassion;
  • Understand that self-harm is NOT acting out, manipulation, or a failed suicide attempt; the person is usually trying to cope with great emotional distress;

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Emotional Pain:

  • Ask for a hug;
  • Talk it out;
  • Look at feel-good images;
  • Listen to soothing music;
  • Write, paint, or dance it out;

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  • Love yourself, even just a little bit. Enough to know that you don’t deserve to be hurt;
  • Really take in love, kindness, and compassion from others;
  • Talk to someone safe about your self-harm;
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Self-harm is something that usually happens alone, and in secret. Those of us who hurt ourselves–or who used to hurt ourselves–may do it to relieve great emotional pain and distress; to avoid, distract from, or suppress overwhelming emotion; to try to feel better; to stop a painful memory or thought; to punish ourselves; to reenact childhood abuse or the messages our abusers taught us; to try to connect to ourselves; to keep from committing suicide; to release or express anger that we’re afraid to express to others; to silently cry out for help; to show ourselves how bad the pain is that we feel inside; or for a number of other reasons. But ultimately, hurting ourselves does just that–it hurts us….

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