Articles for Survivors of Abuse
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What Is Ritual Abuse? A detailed overview of ritual abuse
Ritual abuse is frequent, prolonged, and systematic physical, sexual, and psychological torture used to control children and adults that uses mind control, calculated torture, rituals, and an ideology within an organized secret group setting. The abuse is used to harm, manipulate, control, and indoctrinate the victim, and ensure her long-term silence, co-operation, and participation. Ritual abuse is perpetrated to gain complete control over the victim, and to gain power and money.
Ritual abuse often includes, within rituals: . . . .
Ritual Abuse Survivors and Wanting to Die: Where it Comes From, and How to Help
It makes a lot of sense that many ritual abuse survivors, at some point, feel the desire to die or to kill ourselves. It is a natural response to prolonged extreme torture and abuse—needing the pain to stop. Thus the desire to die may be an emotional memory, not a desire from the present. However, this feeling may also be part of programming. The desire to die is something that cults intentionally exploit, telling us that the only way to escape the pain is to die. They instill the desire and messages in us through intense and repeated torture and programming....
What is Programming? Why Do Cults Use it?A closer look at programming within organized ritual abuse.
Programming is the use of focussed mind control and torture used to instill and reinforce precise messages and/or specific learned responses by organized cults. It is a deliberate, calculated, and extreme form of manipulation and control. In organized ritual abuse, programming is usually integrated into the extreme torture and abuse that begins at birth or at an early age ....
Programming: Understanding, Recognizing, and Nullifying It
an article for ritual abuse survivors, and their friends, partners, and therapists
Programming involves a message or series of messages (often accompanied by sensory, emotional, or body memories) that repeat or resonate inside a survivor’s mind at a certain cue or trigger (delivered by personalities who were trained, through torture, to do that). Programming is a deliberate tool used by cults to control....
What to Do When You Feel Like Hurting Yourself
Self-harm is something that usually happens alone, and in secret. Those of us who hurt ourselves—or who used to hurt ourselves—may do it to relieve great emotional pain and distress; to avoid, distract from, or suppress overwhelming emotion; to try to feel better; to stop a painful memory or thought; to punish ourselves; to reenact childhood abuse or the messages our abusers taught us; to try to connect to ourselves; to keep from committing suicide; to release or express anger that we're afraid to express to others; to silently cry out for help; to show ourselves how bad the pain is that we feel inside; or for a number of other reasons. But ultimately, hurting ourselves does just that—it hurts us....
Need more information on self-harm? You might want to check out Healing the Hurt Within by Jan Sutton. It's an informative, sensitive book on self-harm, and the author is clearly aware of the issues of survivors and self-harm.
Why We Deflect Compliments, and How to Take Them In
So many of us–and especially women and survivors of abuse–hesitate to accept compliments, or outright deflect or reject them. Taking in a real compliment or acknowledging our successes can feel so good. It can help us feel better about ourselves, improve our self-image and self-confidence, and feel happiness or joy. So why do we not allow ourselves that healthy, healing experience?
Finding Self-Love as a Survivor:
How Do You Love Yourself When You've Been Taught to Hate Yourself?
As survivors of child abuse, many of us have been taught to hate ourselves, to consider ourselves less equal and to think our needs are not important—just by the very act of abuse...
Reach Out to Others—And to Yourself
Have you ever done this? You're upset, you're having a hard time—and you keep it to yourself. You don't call a friend because you think...
Talking To Your Critical Voices
Negative or critical voices interfere with people feeling good about themselves, or feeling good at all...
Mothering Ourselves
There are so many of us who didn't get the kind of nurturance and love that we needed as children--the kind of nurturance that our society associates with mothers...
Portable Comfort:
How to Carry Comfort With You
There are times when we are out in the world and need a little - or a lot - of extra comfort...
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