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Sarah, a teen with a port-wine stain and body image issues, is abducted, and must find a way to rescue herself.

“Powerful. I raced through it, wanting to know if Sarah would find a way to escape both her captor and her self-doubts. A real nail-biter!“
- April Henry, NY Times bestselling author of The Girl Who Was Supposed to Die

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Kendra must face her past and stop hurting herself--before it's too late.

Awards: #1 in the Top 10 ALA Quick Picks, ALA's Rainbow List, a Governor General Literary Award Finalist, Staff Pick for Teaching Tolerance.

Yes, it's my own arm on the cover of SCARS.

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Caitlyn, a telepath in a world where having any paranormal power at all can kill her, must decide between saving herself or saving the world.

Awards: A finalist for the Monica Hughes Award for Science Fiction and Fantasy, and the Ruth and Sylvia Schwartz Award.

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Kate sees visions of the future--but only when she has an asthma attack. When she "sees" her sister being beaten, and a schoolmate killing herself, Kate must trigger more attacks--but that could kill her.

Awards: 2013 Gold Winner, Wise Bear Digital Awards, YA Paranormal category.

STAINED book cover

Sarah, a teen with a port-wine stain and body image issues, is abducted, and must find a way to rescue herself.

“Powerful. I raced through it, wanting to know if Sarah would find a way to escape both her captor and her self-doubts. A real nail-biter!“
- April Henry, NY Times bestselling author of The Girl Who Was Supposed to Die

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Procrastination: Sometimes You Need to Just Accept It

by Cheryl Rainfield, 2002

You might wonder how procrastination applies to loving yourself. Well, if you procrastinate, and are anything like me, you'll put something off, and put something off, all the while nagging yourself and feeling worse and worse about yourself. We put ourselves through so much--when really, we should just accept that we need to get to our goal slower, or even just be goal-less for a while.

I think that there's often a good reason for procrastination. Our society sees procrastination as a negative thing--what are you doing putting it off; just get it done--but I think it's a message to ourselves that we are not quite ready to do something yet. And that's okay.

Sometimes we need to take our time getting there. This is often true with creative solutions, thoughts, and the creative process in general, that there's a period where we must put aside the problem or goal and stop consciously thinking about it, almost put those thoughts into temporary hibernation. We may feel like we're doing nothing, but actually things are moving under the surface, even (or perhaps especially) when we're not aware of them. It's a kind of incubation period for creativity and change, and a part of the process. It's important to give yourself the time to just "do nothing," while thoughts are working themselves out deep down inside, on a subconscious level.

Or maybe we have to get past an emotional block before we can do whatever it is we need to do, or think we should be doing. Or maybe there's something else that needs our attention and emotional energy more than the thing we think we should be doing.

By allowing ourselves to take the time we need to take, we nurture ourselves. By accepting that procrastination may even be a positive thing, and by letting go of the constant nagging (which doesn't help you get there any faster, but only makes you feel worse) and the self-criticism, we help ourselves feel better about ourselves--and in so doing, we may even get to where we want to go faster, or along a better route that we hadn't seen when we set ourselves the goal. Even if we take a long time getting where we think we should, by allowing ourselves that time we respect our feelings, our needs, our selves. So give yourself a break. Let yourself procrastinate--and know that it can be a healthy thing.

©Cheryl Rainfield, 2002

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